A letter to my sons on International Women’s Day

Dear sons,

You’re going to hear a lot about women today.

As your mama, I want to offer some perspective.

See, I’m all for equal pay and equal opportunity and equal rights.

But I’m also all for men.

And it’s a right of this woman to be so.

I’ve tried to train you up to know the truth about how God made us, that He made man and woman, and he made us separate for a reason. He didn’t create our differences to diminish one or the other.

He made us different to teach us what we are and what we are not, to show off the reasons why being different is beautiful and important and right.

Do men hurt women?

Absolutely.

But I’ve survived hurts inflicted by women as much as I have by men.

See, humans don’t hurt because of gender.

Humans hurt because we choose to sin.

Which is why I’ve tried to teach you that you, me, dad–all of us–need a Savior.

We need Jesus Christ.

So on International Women’s Day, when much of the world screams about women’s independence and equality at the expense of men, I’m telling you that for me, the greatest aspect of being a woman is the privilege of raising you three to be great men.

A woman doesn’t *need* a man any more than you should feel like you *need* a woman.

What we need is to believe that men and women are uniquely designed in ways which uniquely compliment each other.

What we need are men who are taught to have courage so that the women they love realize they are worth defending.

What we need are men who are strong so that the women they love have a safe place to be weak.

What we need are men who are just so that the women they love don’t have to fear injustice.

What we need are men who stand up so that the women they love can stand next to them.

What we need are men who are free to hold doors and hold hands, who use their strength to be gentle, who use their courage to uphold, who use their leadership to serve, who use their minds to be loyal, and who use their hearts to love like crazy.

What we need are women who raise men to know that these things are not only okay, but that they are indeed right and true.

That’s why on International Women’s Day, I’m celebrating the three best men in the world I know, next to your father.

I thank God every day He picked me to be your mama.

I love you all.

Male and female he created them, and he blessed them. – Genesis 5:2

Sons. Day 8 of #25daysofgood.

I have three sons.

They’re too old for trick-or-treating, but never too old to be my babies.

They are so creative and kind, brave and good.

I don’t post pictures of them online, so these three little pumpkins will have to do to represent them.

Every day, I’m thankful beyond words for the good my sons bring to the world, and that I have the privilege of being their mama.

So today, they are my good.

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Whatโ€™s YOUR good?

๐Ÿ”Ž Find the good.

๐Ÿ“ธ Snap a picture.

๐Ÿ“ฒ Share it on social media.

#25daysofgood

A river really does run through it. Day 13 of #25daysofgood

rivers and roads 

and currents run through these

measured days of motherhood, aching

from the slow release of focus.

the love of sons leaks 

from the carved deep canyon of her

soul, and she slowly disappears 

into the splendor of the green, green

valley.


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poems and sons becoming men and days spent in the woods are my good today.

 Whatโ€™s YOUR good?

๐Ÿ”Ž Find the good.

๐Ÿ“ธ Snap a picture.

๐Ÿ“ฒ Share it on social media.