A letter to my sons on International Women’s Day

Dear sons,

You’re going to hear a lot about women today.

As your mama, I want to offer some perspective.

See, I’m all for equal pay and equal opportunity and equal rights.

But I’m also all for men.

And it’s a right of this woman to be so.

I’ve tried to train you up to know the truth about how God made us, that He made man and woman, and he made us separate for a reason. He didn’t create our differences to diminish one or the other.

He made us different to teach us what we are and what we are not, to show off the reasons why being different is beautiful and important and right.

Do men hurt women?

Absolutely.

But I’ve survived hurts inflicted by women as much as I have by men.

See, humans don’t hurt because of gender.

Humans hurt because we choose to sin.

Which is why I’ve tried to teach you that you, me, dad–all of us–need a Savior.

We need Jesus Christ.

So on International Women’s Day, when much of the world screams about women’s independence and equality at the expense of men, I’m telling you that for me, the greatest aspect of being a woman is the privilege of raising you three to be great men.

A woman doesn’t *need* a man any more than you should feel like you *need* a woman.

What we need is to believe that men and women are uniquely designed in ways which uniquely compliment each other.

What we need are men who are taught to have courage so that the women they love realize they are worth defending.

What we need are men who are strong so that the women they love have a safe place to be weak.

What we need are men who are just so that the women they love don’t have to fear injustice.

What we need are men who stand up so that the women they love can stand next to them.

What we need are men who are free to hold doors and hold hands, who use their strength to be gentle, who use their courage to uphold, who use their leadership to serve, who use their minds to be loyal, and who use their hearts to love like crazy.

What we need are women who raise men to know that these things are not only okay, but that they are indeed right and true.

That’s why on International Women’s Day, I’m celebrating the three best men in the world I know, next to your father.

I thank God every day He picked me to be your mama.

I love you all.

Male and female he created them, and he blessed them. – Genesis 5:2

Noise. A poem.

all the world’s

ablaze

tongues outstretched to taste

the vomit of

opinion

false and

rhetorical, voices

screeching with righteousness.

where are the still

small ones, sitting

cross cross applesauce 

not to be heard but

to hear

the only one whose 

Word matters,

calming like a clear smooth stream

saturating souls

waiting on

Him. only

then can we love. 

““Hear, O Israel: The LORD our God, the LORD is one! You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your strength. 

“And these words which I command you today shall be in your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise up.”

‭‭Deuteronomy‬ ‭6:4-7‬ ‭NKJV‬‬

He knows. Hope and encouragement for #csa #survivors. 

For anyone who’s ever been told to hush, or that no one will believe you, or that your story is too dark to be told. 

God knows your pain.

He sees your wounds–and every person who ever inflicted them.

He heals.

He restores.

And He will bring justice.